What did we learn about Mpreg?

We had such great participation in our first “taboo topics” discussion.  At the top of the list was Mpreg – male pregnancy.  While this is not Raythe’s particular interest, it made it all the more interesting to have a post on it!

Our purpose in doing these posts is to talk openly about kinks and fetishes.  Though Raythe only writes about her kinks (incest, vampires…), she wants to provide a place where we can bring these topics out in the open.

The question was… what’s the allure of Mpreg stories?

While readers liked Mpreg, for most people, they don’t consider it a kink the way BDSM or xenophilia are.

  1. In Mpreg stories, men aren’t left out.  They can have the experience of having babies, something that’s reserved only for women in real life.  And the ability to combine their genes – whereas, in real life, they can’t (yet?)
  2. It’s a way for men to have equal footing with women.  If men can get pregnant, that means that women aren’t automatically weak/inferior/whatever for the ability to get pregnant.
  3. It normalizes gay relationships, since a major objection is that same bio-sex partners can’t reproduce.
  4. It’s a way to prove true love, especially when it’s unusual for a male to get pregnant in the story world.  It’s only possible because of the strength of their love.
  5. A lot of people like it when Mpreg is unusual – like the result of a curse or blessing.
  6. With shifters, why not?  Mpreg adds to the fantasy aspect.  Some readers only like Mpreg in shifter/fantasy settings.
  7. The “mating drive” is sexy.  Often found in alpha/omega and shifter stories, where the characters go into heat.
  8. Pregnancy is the ultimate surrender to your mate – you’re volunteering to carry their children.  Another way of proving love.
  9. It’s different!
  10. It makes male characters more relatable (to women) to think how they would act if pregnant.
  11. It’s appealing to see a more literal nurturing side of men, especially if their fathers weren’t this way in real life.
  12. And it’s also appealing to see the non-pregnant male partner be nurturing as well.

But here’s what people don’t like about Mpreg:

  1. The pregnant partner is submissive, vulnerable, smaller, more emotional…basically standing in for a woman.  This reinforces, not subverts, gender roles.  Why even bother?
  2. Mpreg should happen to the more “manly” characters, not the “femme” ones.
  3. Mpreg isn’t really gay romance anymore, but something more like alien or creature romance.
  4. It’s gross, just like any pregnancy.  Too much realism.
  5. “Babies ever after” or “my life isn’t complete without children” is lame in any form.

We are going to talk about submission next – the second highest poll choice.  Keep voting in the poll, especially to add your own.  Just because something is not popular in the poll doesn’t mean we won’t discuss it.  We use the polls as an idea dumping ground and would love to eventually talk about all of them.

2 Responses to What did we learn about Mpreg?

  1. Reisuke April 8, 2017 at 4:40 pm #

    Ok I have plenty of opinion here but it delves a bit farther for me into a topic that I’m not 100% comfortable discussing with strangers, but lets just say that for me it has more to do with enjoying physical pain but not enjoying the concept of self-inflicted pain and the mental compunctions and judgements that go with hurting ‘yourself’

    Theres a lot of rush to be had in handing another power over yourself, weather thats physical, lifestyle, emotional, mental, etc.

    but theres also a fine line between trust, power, and abuse. my biggest problem is that a lot of time when writer try to write a ‘submissive’ character they take it too far and create an abusive relationship. even if the dominate partner is made of kindness and sunshine there are still certain behaviors that arent just ‘dominate’ but rather ‘possessive’ or ‘controlling’ … permission can be persuaded and submissive behavior can easily lead to something cruel and unwell.

    its kind of like how my fiance makes me breakfast in bed almost every morning, he doesnt do it (entirely) to be sweet or to make sure im eating right, he does it because its the only way he can get my lazy butt out of bed before noon cus he knows i wont want to waste the food and i wont wanna eat it once its cold so i force myself to get up and eat it! this particular behavior is good for me because honestly i would sleep my life away otherwise but similar ‘kindnesses’ can actually be abuse in disguise. like a man who is ‘kind’ enough to wash a girls laundry but he really does it so he can control what she wears, etc. it doesnt take much for even a non-labeled/intended dom/sub relationship to have someone take simple gestures and make them into something in the realm of control and even non-con, and all it takes is patience for learned behaviors to become instilled until someone doesnt even realize they’ve lost all control in their own life and they have no power over themselves anymore…

    honestly its a really touchy subject in this day and age where far too many people see every little thing as a slight/insult/trigger to the point that free speech is rarely un-challenged. you could just see ‘submissive’ as a character trait and BDSM term but it has lots of deeper connotations if you perceive it in a real world sense and not just as something to be read about in books…

  2. Methuselah1 April 21, 2017 at 9:33 pm #

    I like MPreg but I agree with dissenters that it can have negative connotations and poorly written MPreg stories romanticize abuse. I personally like it when MPreg is paired with A/B/O dynamics where “Betas” are people who reproduce how humans do in real life or are asexual people and not actually lower class than Alphas or Omegas. Alphas and Omegas can be male or female, the only difference is that Omegas carry the child and the Alphas provide sperm. I hate it when stories rely on patriarchal caste systems to describe or determine who is going to be Alpha or Omega. My favorite couples are ones where both parents are equally nurturing and protective and work as a team whose duties are divided up by skills and not by dynamic or gender.

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