We had such great participation in our first “taboo topics” discussion. At the top of the list was Mpreg – male pregnancy. While this is not Raythe’s particular interest, it made it all the more interesting to have a post on it!
Our purpose in doing these posts is to talk openly about kinks and fetishes. Though Raythe only writes about her kinks (incest, vampires…), she wants to provide a place where we can bring these topics out in the open.
The question was… what’s the allure of Mpreg stories?
While readers liked Mpreg, for most people, they don’t consider it a kink the way BDSM or xenophilia are.
- In Mpreg stories, men aren’t left out. They can have the experience of having babies, something that’s reserved only for women in real life. And the ability to combine their genes – whereas, in real life, they can’t (yet?)
- It’s a way for men to have equal footing with women. If men can get pregnant, that means that women aren’t automatically weak/inferior/whatever for the ability to get pregnant.
- It normalizes gay relationships, since a major objection is that same bio-sex partners can’t reproduce.
- It’s a way to prove true love, especially when it’s unusual for a male to get pregnant in the story world. It’s only possible because of the strength of their love.
- A lot of people like it when Mpreg is unusual – like the result of a curse or blessing.
- With shifters, why not? Mpreg adds to the fantasy aspect. Some readers only like Mpreg in shifter/fantasy settings.
- The “mating drive” is sexy. Often found in alpha/omega and shifter stories, where the characters go into heat.
- Pregnancy is the ultimate surrender to your mate – you’re volunteering to carry their children. Another way of proving love.
- It’s different!
- It makes male characters more relatable (to women) to think how they would act if pregnant.
- It’s appealing to see a more literal nurturing side of men, especially if their fathers weren’t this way in real life.
- And it’s also appealing to see the non-pregnant male partner be nurturing as well.
But here’s what people don’t like about Mpreg:
- The pregnant partner is submissive, vulnerable, smaller, more emotional…basically standing in for a woman. This reinforces, not subverts, gender roles. Why even bother?
- Mpreg should happen to the more “manly” characters, not the “femme” ones.
- Mpreg isn’t really gay romance anymore, but something more like alien or creature romance.
- It’s gross, just like any pregnancy. Too much realism.
- “Babies ever after” or “my life isn’t complete without children” is lame in any form.
We are going to talk about submission next – the second highest poll choice. Keep voting in the poll, especially to add your own. Just because something is not popular in the poll doesn’t mean we won’t discuss it. We use the polls as an idea dumping ground and would love to eventually talk about all of them.