Raythe says …
In this vlog, I talk about my favorite trope: Older Man (Immortal)/Younger Man (More than what he seems!).
Why do I like older man/younger man dynamic?
Oh! Let me count the ways!
(1) Caretaking & Guidance Without Abuse of Power
The taking care aspect really appeals to me. There’s a little bit of father-son or older brother-younger brother aspect to it, but not incest (as you know that’s another of my joys, but I just straight out do incest if I want to write incest). For me, its the idea of the older man getting to be tender, protector and use their greater knowledge to help a younger man.
There is another side of this trope that a lot of people like, but I don’t as much and that is where the older man uses the power imbalance between him and his younger lover to control the younger lover. Its a more possessive type situation where the age difference is used as a weapon, in a way. My stories really don’t do that.
In fact, I make my younger guys have uber powers, sometimes far more than their older counterparts in order to avoid that kind of imbalance. An example of this is Winter Haven Country Club where Cole, the younger man, is actually a far greater demon than his Alpha Incubus lover Stephanus.
(2) Younger Man Teaches the Older Man
Scott and Jordan’s relationship in The Fell (gay high fantasy romance, father x son incest, elves & werewolves) is a great example of this. Scott, the younger partner, helps Jordan accept the benefits of being a werewolf and his homosexuality. Jordan was born at a time when it wasn’t okay to be gay (not to say that its completely accepted now, but you get the drift). Scott has never had to hide or deny who he loves. Also, Scott sees becoming a werewolf as a gift, whereas, Jordan became one through a tragedy. Scott’s enthusiasm – and the fact that he is turned, too – makes Jordan view their wolfish side much differently once they are together.
(3) Older Man Gets A New Look At Life
Also, while the older man has a lot to teach his younger lover, the younger man will often cause the older man to re-engage with the world again in a new way, to see the wonder of it rather than be jaded.
Cursed (M/M Modern Retelling of Beauty & the Beast) is a great example of this. Bane is as jaded as they come. He doesn’t believe in love. He sees people as out for themselves. Nick shows him that’s not true at all. Bane comes alive again because Nick shows him the world really is a great place.
(4) The Differences in Age/Experience Cause a Spark
There is little excitement for me in two people of the same age together (though I’ve written it in Lightless (gay superhero/super villain romance)) because its too much the blind leading the blind. When two people are at the same point in life there seems to me to be less sparks between them.
Even when I try not to go after what attracts me to this dynamic, I fall into it and make the couple I didn’t intent to be compelling, the right one like in Ghost: Hong Kong Triad (gay crime lord romance) with Kai and Freyr.
But enough about my thoughts, what are yours? As always, I can’t wait to hear what you think!